Helping Your Child to Deal with Conflict

Helping your child deal with conflict
Much of peaceful parenting is about helping your child navigate the world, taking into account his character and developmental stage. To people who are unfamiliar with the concept, it often looks as if parents are ‘enabling’ the child or ‘spoiling’ it and deliberately trying to avoid conflict. 
The latter is what I wanted to talk about in this post: the approach of conflict in the peaceful parenting paradigm.
In peaceful parenting, parents try to steer their child through the matters of life without force or punishment. Conflict is approached from a standpoint of resolution instead of aggravation.
In authoritarian parenting, parents will deliberately worsen conflict in order to force the child to ‘find their way through it’, and if they don’t, punishment will prevail.
A peaceful parent knows a child learns by modelling and tries to acknowledge the developmental stage their child is in. Instead of creating conflict, the parent will indeed try to avoid creating conflict, and when avoiding is not possible, find a peaceful solution, which is a great way of modelling peacefulness in life. 
So will peacefully parented children never</> learn to deal with conflict when their parents don’t strew their paths with artificially created conflict? Of course they will.
Conflict is a part of life, and peaceful parents do not avoid conflict at all cost. It is important to have limits and to show your child what is acceptable, what is healthy. Conflict will occur.
Instead of seeing it as struggles or battles, the peaceful parent tries to see conflict as a learning opportunity. A chance to find solutions together. Thus, handing the child the tools to become a problem solver instead of an aggravator. Isn’t that a skillset we should all aspire to?

Meet Laura

Belgian born author Laura Schuerwegen has been living in Sub-Saharan Africa for the past seven years and currently resides in Liberia. Author of two self help books for parents and a children’s book, she divides her time between homesteading, unschooling and pursuing her passions. She writes at Authentic Parenting. Follow Laura on Facebook Pïnterest  – Twitter.

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About Stephanie

Stephanie is a stay-at-home mom to her curly-haired two year old son, a nursing student, dog lover, and yoga enthusiast. She loves to share her tips on making green and healthy living attainable to families getting
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real food and living as natural as possible…and why not, leaving behind a
better planet for our children.


  1. thanks for sharing my post with your readers, I seem to have messed up the code there a little though 🙂

    • Naturally Mindful says:

      Thank you for contributing to this site! I have recently moved hosts and things are a little “off” these day 😉

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